My latest bout of imposter syndrome

I’ve got a confession. Earlier this month I had a little bout of imposter syndrome. 

 

Luckily it only lasted a few minutes cause I’ve got the tools  to smash that shit to pieces. And I’m going to walk you through that journey. 

 

I was spiraling with stories. 

 I’ve been coaching for years. My business should be “further along.”

 I need to run in person events because that’s what other coaches do. 

 I should have a bigger following. 

 I need to attend more networking events. 

 My speaking engagements have dropped because I’m not good at it. 

 

When anyone is spiraling the first thing I recommend is stop and breathe. The second thing is to reframe. 

 

 I’ve been coaching for years. My business should be “further along.”

 The reality is I’ve had two kids and two successful maternity leaves. The reality is the farm takes up a huge amount of time and resources. The reality is I’ve built a freaking fantastic business and helped thousands of women since 2016. If multi six figure years isn’t a reflection of being “far enough along” then I’m never going to be happy. 

 

 I need to run in person events because that’s what other coaches do. 

 The reality is I started my business to do things my way. The reality is it’s just as hard for my clients to get to in person events as it is for me to organise them. The reality is I’m lucky enough to work with clients from every corner of Australia and deciding on a central location is tough. The reality is I will run events when I don’t have small kids and I have more time and freedom to travel. 

 

 I should have a bigger following. 

 In the most eloquent way- F$&k the size of your following. I know I don’t need tens of thousands of people following me to make a healthy income. I know slow and steady wins the race. I know I’d rather connect with my audience authentically than have vanity metrics that are nice for my ego.

 

 I need to attend more networking events.

 The reality is I am really happy with not going to networking events. The reality is the stress, prep and time away is not going to give me what I want. The reality is if I plan an afternoon or night away from my kids, I want to either be out with my husband or close friends. The reality is I can attend networking events in the future when it makes sense for my family and life.